A fight among friends is usually verbal and does not go to the physical extent in most of the cases. There is an old saying that you fight only with the ones you love the most and i think everyone loves their friends in life.
Sometimes a fight is good between friends it is mainly because we know their worth only when they are not with us, that is when we sit down and think about the time spent with them what they have done for us and how much they have been with us. A fight can arise out of petty things and at the end of the day you might even wonder what the fight was all about and you try to justify the acts with some lame thing.
I don't mean to be apprehensive when i say this but among friends one of them is bound to have more ego or prestige than the other. We cannot expect them to change, well i say this because if he/she is truly your friend then you have accepted them for what they are. The issue mainly build up and the divide among friends comes in when a third person enters into the picture, people on the weaker side try to gather support when there is an issue and try to have the advantage of pity with them so that the other guy will be blamed.
The usual stuff people tend to say is that "he did this, that is why i did that otherwise i wouldn't have done that" or "how could he do such a thing" and so on. In this process the people bring a third person into their friendship to resolve the matter and put him as judge and confide unto them all the details and these people sometimes act as lawyers and do all the stuff which will justify the guy/gal's actions in the particular context.
My simple logic, although it is one of the tough logic to follow is that just try to stay calm under all circumstances and try to avoid the quarrels, you cannot expect to win with friends. I agree that competition is great and that is what drives everyone to achieve more in life. But remember a healthy competition is always welcome but a competition which could ruin a friendship is not worth taking. Note that i am telling you to give up on things which mean to you at the same time i want people to know what their priorities in life are and should learn to let go the things which do not matter to you.
I understand that some people are too sensitive about everything but that is not the way of life, if you are too sensitive you may attract attention pity and even help when needed but this may not last for long because no one can be open or frank with that kind of person, o.k let's say that person is a receptive character that could be an exception. Remember no where i am stating that you are to keep everything bottled up inside you, that is a really really bad thing and at some point or the other the whole thing may come out of you and at that point it may not be a pretty scene to see. People will become too apprehensive of you and when you start kindling the old issues which they thought you had left then the impression on you will totally change. It is good to share things be it good or bad.
As a conclusion i would like to say that fights are bound to happen in some circumstance or the other and it is inevitable but it should been see to it that these issues can be sorted out and be mended before it goes out of proportion.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
What is Love?
A feeling which is imbibed in each and every individual. The word love is far more more deep the perceived in the normal sense. In the current trend the word love has taken a totally different route altogether, it more about a relationship between a guy and a girl, and yes i am going to talk about the same issue.
I am not going to address issues like parental love or the bonds between a brothers and sisters. These kinds of love happens and you tend to grow to love them as time passes by and you have 'n' number of reasons for the same. It is a bond which forms at birth and the love stays.
Now coming to the actual crux of the topic, people generally say to their friends first in ways similar to this like "I am in love" or "Ennaku Love vanthuduchu" or "Mujhe pyaar ho gaya hai"(sorry guys i know only three languages else would have typed in all the languages) this is the way things usually go about it in the first place. People then go about trying out all the filmy styles in order to impress the love of their life.
I agree with all the points till now, it is a great feeling that too I agree and we have novels, plays and not to forget our film industry to support these claims. People go about the love issue rather too fast, which i am not blaming some people are lucky to find them, many i mean make blunders and there are numerous cases of heart break due to varying reasons which i need not emphasize on right now.
All said, it is now to discuss about what this whole love is all about. People kinda hurry up on the whole issue of love, the simple reason you get is or the advice you get is including the film industry is that "Hurry up and tell your love soon else, you may loose that person", this is quite true and i don't deny this statement, yes you can never delay love and it has to be said soon. The logic is quite simple if you have to catch a train or a flight you can be there an hour in advance and sometimes you can start from home 3 hours in advance but when you try to be there a day in advance or for a night journey you decide to come to the place of departure in the morning that is insane.
People hurry up in their relation and they try to save time on it. I don't quite understand what saving time here implies and what is the hurry about it, love will happen when it has to happen and people should not force them into it. Love is a wonderful feeling and people will know its depth only when the find the right person.
Love is about understanding, compassion, feeling for one another and now in the current era it is not about that at all, it all about looks that play a pivotal role in deciding the partner. I am not generalizing anything it is the fact and i could be wrong about the 10% of the people but the rest 90% is about looks.
I am not against anybody when i stated my previous sentence many could be lucky to find a good heart behind great looks but that is just luck and people in general are not that lucky let's face it shall we, if every one were lucky everyone who bet on horse would have won, so it is a rare probability.
I would like to place beauty behind the character of a person, many people aspire for a drop-dead-gorgeous looks simply because it will feel the person elated, i am not criticizing anyone when i saw this, you could be an exception but a person does this mainly to show of his loved one and to such person character comes secondary and people in general usually envy such kinda relations mainly because it looks great when looked from a distance but not so great when near.
My simple logic would be that if you find a true love in some one it is bound to be noticed by that person and that person will seem beautiful to your eyes no matter what the comments are, people usually pay heed to various comments which is one of the main reasons of causing disputes but a deep love will not have such barriers.
I don't know how to elaborate on this love issue in a simple blog so i will finish this one by stating that "Love is a wonderful feeling and people should experience it but never push yourself to it, it will happen at the right time"
I am not going to address issues like parental love or the bonds between a brothers and sisters. These kinds of love happens and you tend to grow to love them as time passes by and you have 'n' number of reasons for the same. It is a bond which forms at birth and the love stays.
Now coming to the actual crux of the topic, people generally say to their friends first in ways similar to this like "I am in love" or "Ennaku Love vanthuduchu" or "Mujhe pyaar ho gaya hai"(sorry guys i know only three languages else would have typed in all the languages) this is the way things usually go about it in the first place. People then go about trying out all the filmy styles in order to impress the love of their life.
I agree with all the points till now, it is a great feeling that too I agree and we have novels, plays and not to forget our film industry to support these claims. People go about the love issue rather too fast, which i am not blaming some people are lucky to find them, many i mean make blunders and there are numerous cases of heart break due to varying reasons which i need not emphasize on right now.
All said, it is now to discuss about what this whole love is all about. People kinda hurry up on the whole issue of love, the simple reason you get is or the advice you get is including the film industry is that "Hurry up and tell your love soon else, you may loose that person", this is quite true and i don't deny this statement, yes you can never delay love and it has to be said soon. The logic is quite simple if you have to catch a train or a flight you can be there an hour in advance and sometimes you can start from home 3 hours in advance but when you try to be there a day in advance or for a night journey you decide to come to the place of departure in the morning that is insane.
People hurry up in their relation and they try to save time on it. I don't quite understand what saving time here implies and what is the hurry about it, love will happen when it has to happen and people should not force them into it. Love is a wonderful feeling and people will know its depth only when the find the right person.
Love is about understanding, compassion, feeling for one another and now in the current era it is not about that at all, it all about looks that play a pivotal role in deciding the partner. I am not generalizing anything it is the fact and i could be wrong about the 10% of the people but the rest 90% is about looks.
I am not against anybody when i stated my previous sentence many could be lucky to find a good heart behind great looks but that is just luck and people in general are not that lucky let's face it shall we, if every one were lucky everyone who bet on horse would have won, so it is a rare probability.
I would like to place beauty behind the character of a person, many people aspire for a drop-dead-gorgeous looks simply because it will feel the person elated, i am not criticizing anyone when i saw this, you could be an exception but a person does this mainly to show of his loved one and to such person character comes secondary and people in general usually envy such kinda relations mainly because it looks great when looked from a distance but not so great when near.
My simple logic would be that if you find a true love in some one it is bound to be noticed by that person and that person will seem beautiful to your eyes no matter what the comments are, people usually pay heed to various comments which is one of the main reasons of causing disputes but a deep love will not have such barriers.
I don't know how to elaborate on this love issue in a simple blog so i will finish this one by stating that "Love is a wonderful feeling and people should experience it but never push yourself to it, it will happen at the right time"
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Friends in Life
Every one has friends in life. Well this is a general statement. My question would be do all have friends in life. Well the answer is complicated.
Let's see shall we... Who is a friend? A friend is a person who forms part of you and does things without any expectations. This being said another question may arise what if i don't want to be friends with that guy/gal. Again the answer is complex, a person chooses a friend on the basis of his character and the attitude towards others, these kind of friendship last for a long time, BUT i again quote this many, i mean many people use the word friend either as a security or as a financial gain or in order to get some work done from that person. These kinda friendship last for a good period of time and these kind of friendship seem to be the decorated ones and many seem to envy these kinda friendships.
People fail to see the important meaning of friendship, friendship is never about giving and taking, it more than that and the people fail to see them when it is close to them. The true worth of a person is know only when that person is not with you anymore. Yes, I had previously impliedly stated that a friend stays for life. But, then again you can't expect a friendship to last for ever if you are not being a true friend, you cannot expect it to stay for long in all circumstances.
Many may disagree to this point, and this is a point on which many have varying views.
It is a simple logic you can't expect to be respected by a friend if you don't respect him/her for the deeds done by them. A friend does not need an accreditation for doing an act but he/she does expect it to be notice after all even that person is an individual and it is the human tendency to make everyone notice. Again some people may pick to differ and say "No, not at all, I am not like that" I would say they are lying.
Let me illustrate it "a guy tells his friend about what he did, everyone praise him the guy who has done a similar deed is standing right beside him tells the people there what he has done and says it is childish to do good deeds and tell about it and you don't see him bragging about it" Here the other guy has indirectly told what he has done and tries to potray himself as someone different of the lot.
In schools and colleges these kinds of scenarios are common and they do bring a smile to one's face.
Friendship evolves as life goes on and people learn to differentiate between people in their life but I regret that in the current era people use the word friend so often that they forget the meaning of a friend and now they even have classification for friends more like ranking of friends Best friend, close friend, just friends and so on.
It is to be noted that a friend is a friend and you do not have the right to rank a friend ever, they are the best in their own right and no two friend can be compared with one another.
And friends are a very important part of your life and some people find them early in life and some people fail to identify them.
Let's see shall we... Who is a friend? A friend is a person who forms part of you and does things without any expectations. This being said another question may arise what if i don't want to be friends with that guy/gal. Again the answer is complex, a person chooses a friend on the basis of his character and the attitude towards others, these kind of friendship last for a long time, BUT i again quote this many, i mean many people use the word friend either as a security or as a financial gain or in order to get some work done from that person. These kinda friendship last for a good period of time and these kind of friendship seem to be the decorated ones and many seem to envy these kinda friendships.
People fail to see the important meaning of friendship, friendship is never about giving and taking, it more than that and the people fail to see them when it is close to them. The true worth of a person is know only when that person is not with you anymore. Yes, I had previously impliedly stated that a friend stays for life. But, then again you can't expect a friendship to last for ever if you are not being a true friend, you cannot expect it to stay for long in all circumstances.
Many may disagree to this point, and this is a point on which many have varying views.
It is a simple logic you can't expect to be respected by a friend if you don't respect him/her for the deeds done by them. A friend does not need an accreditation for doing an act but he/she does expect it to be notice after all even that person is an individual and it is the human tendency to make everyone notice. Again some people may pick to differ and say "No, not at all, I am not like that" I would say they are lying.
Let me illustrate it "a guy tells his friend about what he did, everyone praise him the guy who has done a similar deed is standing right beside him tells the people there what he has done and says it is childish to do good deeds and tell about it and you don't see him bragging about it" Here the other guy has indirectly told what he has done and tries to potray himself as someone different of the lot.
In schools and colleges these kinds of scenarios are common and they do bring a smile to one's face.
Friendship evolves as life goes on and people learn to differentiate between people in their life but I regret that in the current era people use the word friend so often that they forget the meaning of a friend and now they even have classification for friends more like ranking of friends Best friend, close friend, just friends and so on.
It is to be noted that a friend is a friend and you do not have the right to rank a friend ever, they are the best in their own right and no two friend can be compared with one another.
And friends are a very important part of your life and some people find them early in life and some people fail to identify them.
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
What are advices in Life
Life is a mixture of Good and Bad. It has everything and people always everything in life at some point of time. These words are so so common people tend to say all these stuff and usually it comes as an advice from some person at some point. At that point we tend to think "Who is he? He is not perfect and who is he to advice me on what to do and what not to do."
The usual perception any guy has is that the guy who advices is totally wrong and you are right. I tend to say this because the point at which the guy says the advice or these words is when you are at the peak of losing control and you try to justify each and every action of yours. But mark my words the words said by someone maybe again quote them maybe right in certain cases and even though that guy may not be person to give you the advice it is not wrong to take advice from a guy like that.
Like many say one of the cheapest things and the most valuable thing a person can give is an ADVICE. And people give that a lot. Take it a cricket match or a football match a guy sits in front of the Idiot Box and advices a world class player on how to play the game.
Sometimes these advices may be utter non-sense and sometimes this may add value to the player and there is a scope for enhancement of the persons ability.
So as a minor conclusion to this topic it can be said that never be judgmental on the advice given by someone be that anyone in life it is just the words that we are concerned with and sometimes even a nincompoop may give the best of advice
The usual perception any guy has is that the guy who advices is totally wrong and you are right. I tend to say this because the point at which the guy says the advice or these words is when you are at the peak of losing control and you try to justify each and every action of yours. But mark my words the words said by someone maybe again quote them maybe right in certain cases and even though that guy may not be person to give you the advice it is not wrong to take advice from a guy like that.
Like many say one of the cheapest things and the most valuable thing a person can give is an ADVICE. And people give that a lot. Take it a cricket match or a football match a guy sits in front of the Idiot Box and advices a world class player on how to play the game.
Sometimes these advices may be utter non-sense and sometimes this may add value to the player and there is a scope for enhancement of the persons ability.
So as a minor conclusion to this topic it can be said that never be judgmental on the advice given by someone be that anyone in life it is just the words that we are concerned with and sometimes even a nincompoop may give the best of advice
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To post your comments click on the respective post header at the bottom you will see a comment section.
If you have any topic which needs any light do mention such topics in the comment section below and I shall try to get my input on that topic. Thank You
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