Fight among Friends

A fight among friends is usually verbal and does not go to the physical extent in most of the cases. There is an old saying that you fight only with the ones you love the most and i think everyone loves their friends in life.

Sometimes a fight is good between friends it is mainly because we know their worth only when they are not with us, that is when we sit down and think about the time spent with them what they have done for us and how much they have been with us. A fight can arise out of petty things and at the end of the day you might even wonder what the fight was all about and you try to justify the acts with some lame thing.

I don't mean to be apprehensive when i say this but among friends one of them is bound to have more ego or prestige than the other. We cannot expect them to change, well i say this because if he/she is truly your friend then you have accepted them for what they are. The issue mainly build up and the divide among friends comes in when a third person enters into the picture, people on the weaker side try to gather support when there is an issue and try to have the advantage of pity with them so that the other guy will be blamed.

The usual stuff people tend to say is that "he did this, that is why i did that otherwise i wouldn't have done that" or "how could he do such a thing" and so on. In this process the people bring a third person into their friendship to resolve the matter and put him as judge and confide unto them all the details and these people sometimes act as lawyers and do all the stuff which will justify the guy/gal's actions in the particular context.

My simple logic, although it is one of the tough logic to follow is that just try to stay calm under all circumstances and try to avoid the quarrels, you cannot expect to win with friends. I agree that competition is great and that is what drives everyone to achieve more in life. But remember a healthy competition is always welcome but a competition which could ruin a friendship is not worth taking. Note that i am telling you to give up on things which mean to you at the same time i want people to know what their priorities in life are and should learn to let go the things which do not matter to you.

I understand that some people are too sensitive about everything but that is not the way of life, if you are too sensitive you may attract attention pity and even help when needed but this may not last for long because no one can be open or frank with that kind of person, o.k let's say that person is a receptive character that could be an exception. Remember no where i am stating that you are to keep everything bottled up inside you, that is a really really bad thing and at some point or the other the whole thing may come out of you and at that point it may not be a pretty scene to see. People will become too apprehensive of you and when you start kindling the old issues which they thought you had left then the impression on you will totally change. It is good to share things be it good or bad.

As a conclusion i would like to say that fights are bound to happen in some circumstance or the other and it is inevitable but it should been see to it that these issues can be sorted out and be mended before it goes out of proportion.