Arrears in College... what????

The usual thing you get to hear from your friends if they enquire about your studies if at all they enquire, the usual thing they ask is "how are your studies going?, do you have any arrears?"

Has anyone wondered why people use a different name when in college when one person fails to clear a particular paper. It is just a cover-up actually. The people grow up and the attitude also changes with them and the people want to make things sound a lot fancy.

In school, if you were unable to clear a particular exam, you will feel bad, i am not saying failure in college you might not feel bad, yes you will feel bad, you might not actually know how to react actually. In college you have a different set of people with you, and you might not be the only one who did not clear the particular paper and you are bound to have some company in the form of your friends, who will also feel bad but all this lasts for a day or two max and it gets back to normal in the due course of time.

Although this may not be true to some set of people who are in a category where they are in a competition and they want to excel in each and everything in life, people are bound to meet failure at some point in their life, sometimes it is because of their own acts and sometimes induced or caused by someone else.

It is just part and parcel of life and here i am not saying that you should not repent for the failure, yes it is a great feeling to have success all the time but at the same time a failure is not the end of the world. You have to get up and brush aside the failure but never forget about it, keep that in the back of your mind and try to get back where you really belong. Remember, if you are are worried about the campus placements and all those stuff, just remember no successful business man got to the place where he is without having a single hurdle in their life.

They will be more pleased to know that you never gave up and worked harder and went on to achieve your goal, everywhere the people who look for recruits look for the fighting spirit in a individual. Yes, i do agree that marks are also vital and you may also state that arrears could leave a black mark on your report and may not look so delightful. But remember no one is going to bother you with all that once you get yourself into a respectable position.

You might often listen some oldies say " in those times, we never used to keep arrears, we used to work really hard, this generation is totally different", well people who say that will keep saying that and you cannot change them. You don't know what it was like back then, and i for one do not want to know about it as well. We are in a totally different generation and the study techniques are totally different from theirs.

The funny part is when some oldies say "our schooling is way superior to your college", i agree with this one, not many colleges are so good at teaching, it is the self study that gets the students through to the next round and the oldies should stop saying such things because, the amount of books they carried when they studied is way way less than the book carried by the primary section.

So, all i am trying to say here is that, never get pulled down if you have any arrears, and remember to stay away from people who try to console you, they are the people who really pull you down even more actually, i know they might do that with the best intentions but that will only hurt you even more, just be jovial and keep the fire burning inside you.

College Life

This is one of those places where you get to know people more deeper and it is here n many cases that you get to find more friends and these re the people who are most likely to be with for the rest of the life.

I am not saying that the friends in school are of less importance or they may not be with you for your life. But all i am trying to state here is that college is a place where you get to know the real people after you understand the good and bad(hopefully u people did by this time).

Many people in the current age enter into college for a full on race they come in and get out and all they try to do in the period of their stay in college is to score marks earn good name with teachers.

Well this is the case of many people they hardly realize that once you are out of college there will be a whole different world waiting to crumble them and you might hardly find any time to enjoy.

And now-a-days people choose correspondence courses to regular colleges, they do not realize what they are actually missing in their real life. College life is all about friendship, compassion, love and not to mention fun, BUT remember But all this is possible only when you have the right set of people around you.

I am not implying anywhere that the college life is only about fun and enjoyment but this should never be at the cause of studies. Work while you work and play while you play. In college, it would be right to say that it is not mandatory to pay attention to all the lectures, it is at this point that we should be able to choose from what is important and what is not. It is not school to be paying attention to each and everything, even if you decide to do i am not blaming anything, you might find somethings to be repetitive.

All i would like to say is that the people in general have a short span of concentration and even if you say u can sit in a lecture and concentrate for the whole 1hr or so, you are lying would be my say, concentration is not that much, the max span of continuous concentration is only 30 min and i am not making up the facts.

People enjoy the college life as much as you while you can, if you don't you will repent later, saying, " i wish i had enjoyed college life", "i missed college life" and so on.

I will keep posting about college life regularly as it is vast topic and usually need a lot of discussion and understanding and cannot be dealt in one single blog.

Life BiRtH N Career

"Mera beta engineer banega" (my son will become engineer), this was the first thing a guy called Farahan had to hear from his father the moment he was born. This reference has been taken from the movie "3idiots"

This was told as a jovial note and people usually and i mean usually try to enjoy the moment there in the cinema hall and enjoy the experience. The issue hear to be looked into is that, the burden of everything, i mean everything which is put upon a child's shoulder the moment he/she enters the world.

Even life partners are sometimes decided at child birth and there are 'n' number of movies in all languages in Indian cinema which portray such scenarios. O.k, the literal translation of dialogue usually used are " look how beautiful my bride is?" or "when i have a daughter i will surely give her hand to him" and so on.

You could justify that all these are just movies and what could these have any possible correlation to things that happen in the real life. But again i would like to reinstate that from where do these people get these ideas, ir is from the real world. I am not going to go deep in to the relationship aspect here, it too vast and complex and sometimes it even gets dirty.

Well, lets start with career shall we, people usually, i mean usually, forget the word usually, they are never bothers about it to to be frank. I again state there are always exceptions.

Well lets start from the beginning shall we, imagine you ask a guy/gal what what you want you want to be in life, and we get to hear stuff like "I want to be a doctor/engineer/lawyer/pilot and so on" the list is never ending, even i fall into one such category, we tend to decide on things quite early in life i am not blaming that and that is not in wrong in totality too, it is just that i think we tend to decide on things even before what they are or what these people actually do in their life.

It is basically the people around you who drive you in those tender years and you tend to get inspired by the things which happen around you or from the things you hear. Our human brain has to be referred in this particular instance of discussion. Our human is a very powerful thing and if trained you can bend even iron rods just using your mind, i may look like exaggerating but it is not so, i believe every person is gifted in his/her own way and they can choose or do anything to which they set their minds to.

It is just about getting to the final destination and every target has hurdles and competition but if you have set your target and you can work towards it every mountain is scalable no matter how big it is.

The usual thing that happens in reality is that, many people love to do something and end up doing something else and it is the way of nature. But, all i would like to say is never give up hope on the thing which you aspire or love to do ever in your life.

You must have heard people say if you love your carrier, you will enjoy it, but not many get o do that so let us change the thing a little bit according to the present trend, if you love to do a thing but instead end up doing something else, complete the thing that you have started and try to work towards your goal later on but never ever give up on that.

The simple concept to be followed on career/life is never to lose focus, it is not a guy who has taste success at the first instance who is regarded as a fighter but a guy after repeated failures goes on to achieve that goal. I am not stating that achieving something in one go is not the right attitude of a fighter or a winner, but sometimes that could play a negative part in your life, a person who knows to get up after a fall in life can only dream of achieving greatness in life. The negative part which i am stating all along is that some people grow so accustomed to their success that one small failure could traumatize them.

Life is one, choose something you want to do, even if you don't get to do that, try to do it at some point of time in your life, but never repent on what you are doing or what you will be doing a few years from now, that could play a very damaging role in your life.

And it is you who is going to shape your life after a certain point of time in you life. It is like this parents and teachers mold the outer portion and then you have some clay in your hand so that you can enhance your personal value in a particular area or field. And finally it is you who has to decide on what you want to do in your life and what you want to make out of it.

Studies NN Friends

Friends are an integral part of our lives and i stand by it. There are some interesting set of people who might have joined you in some walk of life. These set of people would want to befriend you at some point of time for a particular objective or for a personal reason. There are various kinds of people and there are various reasons. One of the most common reasons is studies and this is not something out of the ordinary and there are people like that.

I know this is a fact that many would acknowledge it to be true and the people would sure agree to it. It is a normal attitude or a character of every living being. Let us take an example of a pack of wolves they roam with each other just for security of one another and to hunt it is all a selfish motive and it is how the people are, after all human beings evolved from apes and apes are also animals.

There is a usual attraction towards people who are studious in their life and that is usually determined by the talent that they posses in their life. And people try to befriend these kind of people for the most common of reasons that is for improving their own standards.

Now even in this there are another set of people who try to befriend these people and these people are not weak in studies but they try to befriend them so as to know them from near so that they can beat them easily.

As people say "all is fair in love and war", studies in the current scenario has become war and people who slow down are crushed to such an extent that they are rendered hopeless and are left alone only when others are satisfied that he/she won't have the same fighting spirit again.

Here i would like to bring about the example of a guy nicknamed "silencer" in the movie "3idiots" where the day before his exams he would go about distracting his fellow classmates in order to increase his own chances of securing the top rank. Well the later category of people are somewhat of the same kind.

Here, i am not against any of the two types, here there is a selfish reason with both sets of people and that is not to be blamed in totality, but the former type is better than the later. I am not degrading the later type but mark these words and mark them well, these kinds of people stay with you through out your life, the reason is is not that complicated in both the cases.

Remember, man is driven by necessity when he has everything he doesn't think much about it but when he doesn't have anything he tries to find ways and means to attain the goal.

In the first case, the person becomes indebted and tries to repay the favor and treads the rest of the life with you and helps you in some way or the other. The later is a bit rare but they too exist, it is the competitive attitude that keep this kind of relationship alive and kicking. This kind of attitude and thing can be damaging because the other guy would want to outshine in one aspect or the other and the way to do it easy is to stay with them 24x7 and know what they do in-order to stay ahead of people. This kind of competition could turn out to be a healthy one in due course of time and both of them could benefit from this kind of relationship and maybe and just maybe could turn into a healthy friendship.

Finally, mark my words and mark them well, every rule which i have stated has an exception and there are not strict principles laid down like maths/science, it is life and it has to have its own twists and turns in life